Get red out of damaged hair part 2?

I need some maaajor help.
I’ve dyed my hair several times this year…
*shudder*
I dyed it purple (it was supposed to be red), then within a few days a bright red to fix it, then a month later blonde to get it out. Which didn’t work.
I also straightened my hair, which is very thin and fine, every day. No heat protectant, and at the hottest level it would go.
D:

That was around… October.
So I went to a salon (just a Cost Cutters) and asked them how I could fix it after explaining what I’d done. (This was all permanent dye, tbn.)
I basically got a slap on the nose, told what I’d done wrong, and then she explained to me what I could do. In order to get that all out, I’d have to bleach my hair, then dye it with a semi-permanent in the closest shade to my natural color. She said my hair was already really porous from all of the damage, and bleaching it would damage it more, so the semi permanent would be just sucked right in. It wouldn’t damage my hair really, and it’d just stay in my hair. And I also needed to wait three months to dye my hair.
So three monthsish went by, and my aunt came out to visit, who was a beautician for 30+ years. I asked her about it and told her what the stylist said. She said that I probably didn’t need to bleach it now, and we dyed it with semi permanent. It faded out as normal semi permanents do. Three months+ later, I dyed my hair with a permanent dye around the normal color of my hair that had been lying around since summer. It washed out. (My guess was that it was too old.) So, now, about… three? months later? (I’m not really sure.) I dyed my hair with a semi permanent with a “wine brown” after the red had just about faded. Well, it said it’d be brown, and it came out maroon. Which faded, but now I’m about back to the same color. So I did a semi permanent with a dark brown, and it faded in about three washes. D:
I’m not sure how damaged my hair is anymore- but this weird, mango colored orangey color is just OLD! I’m tired of this mistake. Can anyone help?
Thanks. :/
[and I know, talk to a beautician. I was wondering if there was some sepcial product to make it come out. D: Thanks!]

Oh, & I didn’t get it bleached. She just suggested doing it.

Would it matter what shade I used for the ashy color?
Does it need to be permanent?
How much more will it attack my hair?

**I know I need an ashy color to neutralize the red. Should I go lighter to target the different shades of red? Will it still have this weird color gradient?
D:
Thanks.